“ The experience of unconditional love begins in your heart, not in someone else’s. Don’t make your ability to love yourself conditional on someone else’s ability to love you”.
- Paul Ferrini
Those words set me free, when I first heard them. It was confirmation of something I have felt inside for so long, but had never given words to it. It was the exact opposite of what society tried to have me accept all these years. True love is limitless. When you love yourself you do not fear being alone. Being alone is an opportunity to love yourself even more! You know that love is limitless in the universe. If one person, or form loses interest in you, or rejects you, you know that the loving universe will provide more forms in the future.
End your fear! Trust in a loving universe. You are your own judge, jury, and executioner. You are also free, at any moment, to be your own redeemer. When you see your beloved in everyone, then everyone becomes your beloved. Open fearlessly to love and all its changing forms. Wanting what is best not only for yourself, but for your beloved. Even to the point you can accept if it should one day lead to separation of the partnership.
When you are grounded in your understanding that you are an eternal being you know that we are never truly separated, and no separation is eternal. You know that we come together at certain times and sometimes we go through a particular lifetime together, and other times we have other things that we must experience separately.
It is time to end the fear of freedom with those we say we love. The words “ I love you, and I want to be with you now”, becomes a beautiful phrase, and the hope in my heart that I can help you to achieve your greatest good, can be to our greatest good. I would love for your greatest good to be with me, but I know that that may not always be the case.
No longer do I try to keep love. For when I try to keep love I realize that I have destroyed it. I enjoy my alone time, and no longer fear it. I do not need to manipulate another to keep me from feeling alone. For when I am alone I am still with my own love for myself, and that’s become a really good thing! If I am rejected by someone I don’t wallow in feeling unworthy. I know that I am love, and love is all around me. What should I have to fear?
The outcome is guaranteed! We are in an expanding universe and therefore we will all reach the same spot one day. We all will eventually reach enlightenment. Thus be easy on yourself. Do not strain to force yourself to go where you are not ready to go yet. For this is not about keeping up with anyone, it’s about knowing yourself! Do not try and force a blissful feeling if you are not feeling it. The feeling will arrive itself, naturally, when it is the right time.
You are exactly where you should be right now. Love is all around you, if you could only see it. It is limitless, and when you are able to get in the flow with it, you can become an expression of limitless love to yourself and others. Only your beliefs can cast you out from the flow, and only your beliefs can keep you in the flow. While staying in the flow is preferable, ( when we remember that we are eternal beings ) we can also realize that our time in the flow will increase over time and assure us that bliss, enlightenment, and limitless love will all be permanent states for all of us eventually!!!
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